Not all men are so enlightened that they make the effort to help out around the house without being asked. If you aren’t lucky enough to have one of those considerate men, this article is just what you need to get your man away from the TV and closer to a sink.
Here are 4 problems you might be dealing with and suggestions on how to solve them.
He leaves his dishes everywhere.
It might seem easier to simply pick up dishes your boyfriend leaves in the living room, office, and bedroom, but eventually you’ll grow tired of picking up after him. You don’t have to become a nag to get him to take his dishes to the sink. It is important that you stop picking up after him. If you don’t, he will get used to you doing so and become more unwilling to change as time goes on.
It might be difficult for you to see all of his dishes lying around, but it will be worth it in the end. Once he realizes that you aren’t picking up after him anymore, he’ll get the hint and do it himself.
His clothes never make it into the hamper.
The easiest solution to this problem is to not wash any laundry that isn’t in the hamper. It’s not your job to go around collecting bits and pieces of clothing that need to be washed. That’s what a hamper is for. If your boyfriend asks why you didn’t wash his favorite t-shirt, tell him it wasn’t in the hamper. If you stick to this rule, you will start to find more of his laundry in the hamper where it should be.
He’s used to someone else doing the chores.
Maybe your boyfriend lived with his mom before he lived with you and he’s gotten used to someone else doing the chores and taking care of him. This is not uncommon, but it does need to be addressed. Remind him that you’re not his mother and you’re not his maid. If he needs to learn how to do things, like wash dishes and do laundry, be open to guiding him through them so that he can learn. Don’t do everything for him just because it seems easier.
Chore division seems unfair.
It’s not uncommon for both people in a couple to work full-time jobs and for the woman to still shoulder more of the chores. It’s important that as a couple you share in the chores at home. There isn’t any reasonable excuse why one person should be doing more chores while the other person gets to kick back and relax.
If chore division is unfair in your home, address the issue. You can decide who will do what chores on certain days. One day it might be better for you to cook dinner, while another day he might get off early from work and have time to do it. Don’t simply accept the responsibility of all of the household chores.
Don’t expect things to change overnight. When you change your behavior, it takes other people time to get used to it and change theirs as well. As long as you stick to your new plan, things will change.